What the heck is happening here?

**CharlesW** · 09-12-2004, 08:54 AM

I actually checked my calendar to be sure we didn`t have a full moon. (Suggested by someone else)

It seems like the past several days we have had a big increase in combative posting.
I`m not referring to disagreements about products or processes, but almost personal attacks.
That`s just not DC!
IMO, most of the exchanges would have been better handled in the PM section, but I`m really not interested in chastising someone for the way they handled a situation.
I`d just like to know why we all seem to be so uptight, right now.

FWIW, when I was still in the workforce, the word processor was one of my most valuable tools. I would write a letter or a memo, then just let it simmer for a few hours, go back and read it again. Quite often my reaction was, "Wow, I really didn`t want to say that!"
A revision was usually in order to tone down my statements a little. It was/is pretty easy for me, and probably others, to get caught up in the heat of battle, and not realize just how caustic some of our comments can seem to others.
Anyway, it sure would be nice if we could get back to the old DC without so many personal references.
That`s all.

By the way, I didn`t let this one simmer and may regret it.

Charles

**norahcrv** · 09-12-2004, 09:00 AM

:yeah

Norah

PS - That was one post that didn`t need to simmer! You called it right!!

PPS - I didn`t let this one simmerr either, but often do so myself.

**The Chee** · 09-12-2004, 11:00 AM

probably becoz of `911`:dunno , I just looked at the calendar, guess who`s birthdays coming up

**norahcrv** · 09-12-2004, 11:46 AM

Are the initials GJ?

**DLR Detailing** · 09-12-2004, 11:51 AM

IMO - We all need to agree that we can disagree - without making it personal. I have been away for several weeks and was very suprised to what I came back to.

We can get into disagreements with our blood relatives and a 1/2 hour later forget what the "problem" was and go on with the day. IMO - I like to think of DC as being an extended family. Someone there when you need them for whatever reason.

Just my 2 cents. Time for a Group Hug???

Dave

**The Chee** · 09-12-2004, 11:51 AM

yes....who else ?

**kimwallace** · 09-12-2004, 02:25 PM

I agree with you Charles ...
I really don`t know what is going on with some of the posts, but I find myself getting caught up in and even defending a post to the point of offending people who have been here longer than me.
If I have offended anyone, I am truely sorry ... Please accept my apologies.
It is only about a hobby or a job here ... it isn`t life or death.
Thank you Charles for starting this thread.
It isn`t so much about respecting the mullet as it is respecting each other.

**CharlesW** · 09-12-2004, 02:39 PM

Yeah, the respect is probably the key.
I even respect those that disagree with me. They can`t help it if they don`t know any better.

FWIW, how long you have been here shouldn`t be the measure of respect.

I realize you were just making a comment, but that is how easy it is for someone to take something in a way other than intended.
I`m not one for group hugs, but I do like to see things kept friendly. Been down the not so nice road and it wasn`t fun at all.

Charles

**rabbi** · 09-12-2004, 02:43 PM

That is why The Whaler is such a terrific person. He gets slammed constantly but keeps right on studding. The petty stuff just bounces off him. He truly is an exceptional human being!

**norahcrv** · 09-12-2004, 02:57 PM

Yeah, let`s all hear it for The Whaler!!!

He`s definitely a bigger man than me!!!

Norah

**rabbi** · 09-12-2004, 02:58 PM

Another body shot Norah?

**norahcrv** · 09-12-2004, 03:04 PM

No, I think that knowing me, you would have to agree that he is a bigger MAN than me!

**rabbi** · 09-12-2004, 03:07 PM

Say person. Let`s be politically correct here.

**norahcrv** · 09-12-2004, 03:11 PM

But then it might be construed as a "body shot" and I certainly didn`t mean it as such!!

**jaybs02** · 09-12-2004, 04:46 PM

Originally posted by kimwallace
I agree with you Charles ...
I really don`t know what is going on with some of the posts, but I find myself getting caught up in and even defending a post to the point of offending people who have been here longer than me.
If I have offended anyone, I am truely sorry ... Please accept my apologies.
It is only about a hobby or a job here ... it isn`t life or death.
Thank you Charles for starting this thread.
It isn`t so much about respecting the mullet as it is respecting each other.

:yeah

It seems as though we have been getting caught up in the heat of the monemt... for one reason or another.

Charles is right...Maybe we should hit the preview reply BEFORE we just send it.

We have enough fighting in the world...Do we need it here?
just my $.02

"J"